Contact:

Gender, Sex & Relationship Diversity

Contact is the recognition of ‘otherness,’ the awareness of difference

Laura Perls

Gender, Sex & Relationship Diversity:

As a practitioner, I am aware that your experiences will be different to mine. Even if we might share similarities, my aim is not to assume what it is like to be you. Working with diversity and difference means to me a capacity to connect in spite of differences in background, orientation, ethnicity, and belief systems. It doesn’t mean that our differences don’t matter, quite the contrary – that recognition and awareness of differences is essential for meaningful contact.

Gender, Sex & Relationship Diversity

Clients who seek to work with me on gender, sex and relationship diversity (known as GSRD) often don’t fit into the popular narrative: Man and women fall in love, they procreate (and have amazing sex all the time) and live happily ever after. Unfortunately this binaried narrative troubles many of my clients (including myself) and the consequences for not fitting in can be devastating. If you experience challenges in relation to your gender, sexuality or relationships, counselling and psychotherapy (in particular, the gestalt approach) can help to figure things out. I am affirmative and nonjudgmental towards you and what you bring to therapy. My practice is in line with guidelines as set out by the BACP and the BPS and I continuously attend GSRD training to advance my clinical practice.

Intersectionality

Intersectionality – a term originally coined by Kimberl√© Crenshaw – describes a phenomenon of “being impacted by multiple forces.” In other words, intersectionality is an overlapping experience of marginalisation stemming from race, ethnicity, culture, religion, gender, sex, and relationships. I am aware that consistent and overlapping experiences of not belonging (e.g. racism, anti-semitism, homophobia, transphobia, etc) can lead to depression, anxiety and stress – in extreme instances also to post-traumatic stress. While many people are well resourced to deal with systemic issues, there are some who get stuck and feel unable to move forward. Therapy can help in these instances to understand the underlying processes that may interfere with personal growth.


GSRD Spectrum:

Gender

  • Being a Man/Woman
  • Trans
  • Non-Binary
  • Cis (gender identity matches sex assigned at birth)

Sexuality

  • The Asexual Spectrum
  • Bisexuality / Pansexuality / Queer
  • Lesbian / Gay
  • Heterosexuality
  • Consent

Relationships

  • Solo-ness / Singledom
  • Monogamies
  • Secret/Open Non-Monogamies
  • Polyamory
  • Aromantic Experiences

 

If you need more information about counselling & psychotherapy, I am happy to discuss any questions you may have over the phone.

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