As a practitioner, I am aware that your experiences will be different to mine. Even if we might share similarities, my aim is not to assume what it is like to be you. Working with diversity and difference means to me a capacity to connect in spite of differences in background, orientation, ethnicity, and belief systems. It doesn’t mean that our differences don’t matter, quite the contrary – that recognition and awareness of differences is essential for meaningful contact.
Gender, Sex & Relationship Diversity
Clients who seek to work with me on gender, sex and relationship diversity (known as GSRD) often don’t fit into the popular narrative: Man and women fall in love, they procreate (and have amazing sex all the time) and live happily ever after. Unfortunately this binaried narrative troubles many of my clients (including myself) and the consequences for not fitting in can be devastating. If you experience challenges in relation to your gender, sexuality or relationship, counselling and psychotherapy (in particular, the gestalt approach) can help to figure things out. I am affirmative and nonjudgmental towards you and what you bring to therapy. My practice is in line with guidelines as set out by the BPS and I continuously attend GSRD training to advance my clinical practice.
Intersectionality – a term originally coined by Kimberlé Crenshaw – describes a phenomenon of “being impacted by multiple forces.” In other words, intersectionality is an overlapping experience of marginalisation stemming from differences in race, ethnicity, culture, religion, gender, sex, and relationships. I am aware that consistent and overlapping experiences of not belonging (e.g. racism, anti-semitism, homophobia, transphobia, etc) can lead to depression, anxiety and stress – in extreme instances also to post-traumatic stress. While many people are well resourced to deal with systemic issues, there are some who get stuck and feel unable to move forward. Therapy can help in these instances to understand the underlying processes that may interfere with personal growth.
The Gender, Sex & Relationship Diversity Spectrum
- Being Trans / Non-Binary / Cis
- Asexuality / Bisexuality / Pansexuality
- Queer / Lesbian / Gay / Heterosexuality
- Solo-ness / Singledom / Aromantic Experiences
- Monogamies / Secret & Open Non-Monogamies / Polyamory