“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you“
Trauma & Stress:
What to Expect:
Relational Contemporary Trauma Practice
My approach to trauma therapy is grounded in relational contemporary trauma practice and mindfulness which I acquired through specialist training, ongoing continuous professional development and my clinical practice. My aim is to work alongside you, as I am a firm believer that you are the expert of your experience and that we can collaboratively work together to develop the support you need for your healing journey.
Adjusting to Changed Field Conditions
The impact of trauma can be so devastating that our minds re-visit the incident over and over again. This phenomenon is known as flashbacks – or audiovisual experiences causing stress and anxiety. Trauma survivors sometimes also dissociate from their bodies by switching off, enter dreamlike states or are locked in their head by intrusive thoughts. These types of responses are common to adverse life experiences. Psychotherapy can help to re-adjust to life after difficult events by making sense of what happened, piecing together often fragmented memories and assigning these memories to the past.
Reconnecting with Self and Others
Feelings of shame (e.g. “I am bad” – where the self is perceived problematic) and guilt (e.g. “I did something bad” – where action or behaviour is perceived problematic) are very common in people who experienced trauma, in particular when responses cannot be controlled and stress levels are overwhelming. Shame and guilt can often lead to disconnection and isolation. Psychotherapy can help to explore these feelings safely and find healthy ways of reconnecting with self and others.
Trauma in Relationships
Sometimes trauma isn’t a single event but a multitude of many events experienced in relationship with family members, caretakers or partners. In these instances it is extremely difficult to trust people and therapy’s primary purpose is to establish a trusting relationship. This can often be a challenging process for therapist and client. For example, many people experience empathy as something positive as of being truly seen and understood by another human being. For some people, however, this can be extremely difficult when empathy and attunement was missing in their development. Even worse, when manipulation or coercion were present, a simple smile can already be experienced as threatening. As a therapist, even though I do my best to not cause further pain by activating a relational trigger, I won’t be able to get it right all the time. Mistakes will happen and often these relational ‘mistakes’ hold opportunities for therapeutic growth, by truly understanding why something hurts.